Get Your Boyfriend Back
“I made the decision to leave my significant other, but now I realize it was a mistake and I want him back. What do I do in this situation? Help me! Sarah, Los Angeles
Firstly, you should not blame yourself. Instead, let’s create a well thought-out plan and take action.
But before we go any further: The first step is to determine if you truly want him back or not. This means that you need to understand why you ended the relationship in the first place.
IF the answer is yes, and you’ve realized 100% that you want him back, here is a 5 step plan to get him back.
Step 1: Let Him Know You Want Him Back
Communicate to him that you want him back.
You may be wondering how to give him hints. The answer is simple: tell him you think of him every day, send him a text, an email, leave a message on his voicemail, call him up and inquire about his family. Just be careful not to overdo it or he might think you’re stalking him.
Step 2: Explain Why You Left
If you receive positive signals from him, be honest and straightforward about the reason for the breakup.
Tell him if it was something personal or if he did something wrong and let him think about it.
Step 3: What He Receives From You
At this point, he’ll receive two messages: first, that you still care about him and are willing to get back together; second, that you still have trust in him as you are being sincere and open with him and are willing to do anything to reconcile.
This sets the stage for the next step.
Step 4: Meet Up With Him
Ask to meet with him.
If he agrees, make sure you look your best. Men are more drawn to appearance than anything else. When he sees how beautiful you are, he’ll have even more reasons to say yes.
Step 5: Take It Slow
Don’t rush things; give him time to make a decision.
This depends on how long it’s been since the breakup. However, you should put a timeline on this process and gently ask if he wants to get back together with you. If he seems hesitant, ask him to speak with you about his concerns. If he doesn’t want to talk, let him be and prepare to move on.
Remember that you don’t have to change who you are to get him back. Act naturally and be kind.
Remember why he fell in love with you in the first place and try to recapture those sweet memories.
